I’m back today with another great stress buster that you can do anytime anywhere. To borrow a line from a game show, I’m giving you the option to “phone a friend”. Think of it as your very own safety line whenever you are feeling particularly stressed out.
There’s something about saying it out loud and communicating what’s bothering you with someone you trust. Just letting it all out is a freeing feeling. After the call you’ll feel calmer and like a burden has been lifted off your shoulders. Why it may do nothing about what caused you to get stressed out in the first place, talking it over with someone that’s on your side helps clear the fog and allows you to see everything clearly and possibly in a new light.
If nothing else, calling a friend and doing a little complaining about it, gives you a chance to vent your irritation and frustration, so you can come back with a clear head and get to work on finding a resolution to what caused you to become so stressed out in the first place.
There are a couple of reasons why calling a friend works so well as a stress buster. The first is that it’s easy and convenient. You probably always have your cellphone with you and no matter where you are, you can usually step away for a few minutes and make the call.
It’s also helpful that you can’t see the other person when you’re on the phone. You won’t be distracted by facial expressions, body language, or things like a new haircut. You can focus on what’s stressing you out and do so quickly. Often, the faster you can let off some steam, the better. You want to be able to calm down before you say something you’ll regret later. Of course the less time you spent in a high state of stress the better for your mind and body.
To prepare for the next time you find yourself in a stressful situation at home or at work, think of a couple of people you would call and make sure their contact information is in your phone. I suggest you pick a couple of them because not everyone will be reachable and ready for a quick chat at any time during the day. Work in a couple of backups.
You can also pick different people for different situations. Maybe you trust one very close friend and feel comfortable enough to complain about relationship trouble. Someone else would be better suited for work trouble because they work in the same field or know some of the same people so what you’re saying will make more sense to them and they will be able to relate.