How you feel about yourself, and the confidence you have in who you are, directly reflect the people that are attracted to you. If you’re settling for less in your relationships and aren’t being treated properly with respect, you need to take a deep look at why you feel being treated this way is acceptable in your life. This kind of work on yourself isn’t always easy, but it is one of the most rewarding things you can do for yourself, and doing so will have a profound effect on many different areas of your life.
Your personal relationships should leave you feeling loved, energized, and fulfilled! Everyone has arguments and disagreements, but overall, your relationships should fill you with positive feelings, not negative ones. And sometimes it’s just time to let go of a relationship that’s not serving your highest self.
Having a strong identity, and having confidence in that identity, will help you avoid relationships that aren’t good for you, such as those with people who would not treat you the best, are co-dependent or are addicted. Having strong self-worth will attract those to you who also share this confidence. Strong self-worth will help you create and maintain healthy boundaries, trust levels, and balance in your relationships.
Being in a relationship with someone who doesn’t know their own value can be frustrating. They may constantly look to you for evidence of their own self-worth, and they may be naturally co-dependent.
If you are building up your self-worth, it’s important to steer clear of negative personality types, as you are vulnerable. Your self-worth, in the beginning, is a house of cards that can come down at any moment if given the right (wrong) circumstances. It pays to guard your burgeoning self-worth as if you would anything else you greatly value.
Right now, you may be used to being treated badly. If that’s the case – don’t despair! Getting out of your comfortable, but negative, headspace is simply changing habits to replace negative with positive. Coming to realize that you are worth being treated with respect, dignity, and admiration can be somewhat frightening at first...but once you see that it’s true, it will be truly liberating for you, personally, and in your relationships.
The worst possible thing you can do is stay in an unhappy relationship that gives you less than you truly deserve. Deep down, you know you can have better, healthier relationships – so never settle for less!
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